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|Posted by mercycounseling on July 31, 2021 at 8:45 AM||comments (32208)|
Changing Your Mind
The way you think underpins all your perceptions and impacts your mental health and your destiny. The Bible underscores this as found in Proverbs 23:7: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Invoking the heart in this verse helps us understand that what a person really believes and what he or she says and does may not always be congruent. We often wear a mask to hide our true selves, and th...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on July 29, 2021 at 9:40 AM||comments (1833)|
The Rule of Church
Recently a client expressed how phony and guilty she felt regarding her church experience. The gist of the guilt feelings had to do with expectations laid down by church leadership toward church members that my client felt herself at odds with. After more than a decade of membership, my client was feeling the toll of trying to live what felt like a double life. The situation was causing her to doubt her faith and affec...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on November 26, 2019 at 7:05 AM||comments (612)|
FROM ADVENT TO EASTER AND BEYOND: THE GOLDEN CORD THAT BINDS IN ONE
For many of us, the Christmas and Easter seasons are separate and distinct occasions. Each season has its own colors, flavors, and traditions. Biblically speaking, however, they represent the beginning and ending of a very brief sojourn on earth of Jesus Christ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on November 17, 2019 at 7:30 AM||comments (1546)|
HAPPY (FRENETIC) HOLIDAYS!
The frenetic season is upon us—that time of year between Halloween and New Year’s Day. Some people love it, and some people dread it. Everybody feels the stress. What drives the insanity?
We place tons of expectations on ourselves and we fantasize (obsess) over what we believe are the expectations of others for our holiday “performan...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on November 15, 2019 at 8:05 AM||comments (1084)|
SETTING UP YOUR DAY FOR SUCCESS
We humans generally seem to have a low tolerance for the inevitable valleys, challenges, and changes of life. Don’t you agree? Our lives can be 98 percent good, but we zero in a laser-like focus on the 2% not-so-good. That’s because the human brain is wired to look for danger...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on November 5, 2019 at 9:30 AM||comments (1116)|
HOW TO KNOW THE WILL OF GOD FOR YOU
Some years ago, a young Christian man came to counseling because he was trying to discern the will of God about whether he should marry a young woman with whom he was in love. His angst over the matter was truly gut-wrenching. The woman in question was also a Christian. They were both leaders in many activities of their church, very devoted to Jesus, and they were afraid to do the wrong thing. They wanted to know for sure if it w...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on November 4, 2019 at 8:10 AM||comments (1077)|
DEAR CHRISTIAN PARENTS:
Do you love Jesus? Do you teach your children to love Jesus?
I’ve heard it said that we are always just one generation away from Christianity disappearing from the earth. Thank God that can never be true! The Lord has promised the “the gates of hell” will never prevail against the ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on July 9, 2019 at 7:15 AM||comments (2590)|
The Prickliest Topic in Christianity
Part One: Than Came Grace
It came to me in the still of early morning darkness, as I roused from sleep. A question floated into my consciousness, a gentle whisper: Why are you willing to spend $20 on lunch with a friend, but you only put $10 in the offering plate at the church you are visiting? As I mused on this, I didn’t feel shamed or guilty, but I reali...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on July 6, 2019 at 8:55 AM||comments (6483)|
Stressing Out Doesn’t Make You a Bad Christian!
We’ve all been there. Feeling so stressed that we are practically paralyzed. Blowing our cork over things that normally wouldn’t merit much attention. Not sleeping. Rushing around. Not eating right. Crying jags. Wanting to run away or simply hide under the covers and not come out.
As Christians, this often leads to feelings of failure...Read Full Post »
|Posted by mercycounseling on January 11, 2019 at 9:20 AM||comments (1191)|
IS YOUR MARRIAGE A COMPETITION?
Susan A. Haberkorn
NCCA Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor
Americans love a good competition. In fact, it seems to be central to our corporate identity. We compete for the best deals, for jobs, for the glamor of the spotlight. We root for our favorite individual and team athletes. We compete at home, at work, at school, and at play. Even our economy is based on competition.
The good promise of competition is h...Read Full Post »